Even Cinderella and Prince Charming went through not so great phases (can you imagine dealing with those sisters??), and your relationship likely has too. Big problems, small tiffs, they can all leave you out of sorts with each other. That doesn’t mean it’s the end of your relationship thank goodness.

What’s not so good is that while you’re in the middle of a quarrelsome twosome it can be very difficult to look ahead to the time when things will be better. It can also lead us to do some crazy things in the hopes of turning our relationship around to smoother waters.

I get it. I’ve been there. I’m serious. And to prove it, here is my handy little sampling of save-the-relationship maneuvers that either I’ve tried or have had tried on me…and please remember that these are warnings, not suggestions! Hint: I did not do the baby thing. Promise.

Go for a Baby

Seriously? I have to say this? Apparently, I do. Because people are still doing the whole punching-holes-in-condoms or I-swear-I’m-on-birth-control thing and tricking their significant other into an “accidental” pregnancy. And it’s not just the ladies…men do this too. A thousand shades of wrong, folks.

Invade his privacy

“I know that if I sneak a peak at his email and text messages I’ll gain some insight into what he’s thinking. If I can do that I can fix all our problems”. Are you crazy?? Besides possibly breaking the law this is bound to get you broken up. Deliberately snooping through someone’s private business is never okay.

Checking up on a partner by surreptitiously rifling through his communications is a road that goes straight to a freak out. If you find something chances are it’ll be inadmissible in court (’cause what you’re doing is probably illegal) and you’ll be labeled a snoop. If you find nothing, you’ll still be a snoop, and a sneaky one at that.

Moving in together

When the idea of facing your problems becomes a downer (and let’s face it, who looks forward to that), the natural response is often to become physically closer. So the couple will move in together. It’s an illogical, if understandable, response that does nothing to solve the underlying issues in your relationship.

Understandable because you figure moving in together is one way of staying close to your partner. But guess what, your problems are going to follow you wherever you go. Though the change of scenery may provide a temporary respite, when your problems resurface, and the will, you now have the added responsibility, and complication, of a shared lease or mortgage.

This post was developed by the writers of the Datepad.com internet dating company where you can find hundreds of professional dating posts.

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